Suggested Books

Alcoholism

• Alcoholics Anonymous: The Story of How Many Thousands of Men and Women have Recovered from Alcoholism. (aka “The Big Book”, by Bob Smith and Bill Wilson.) AA World Series, Inc. 2013.
• Denning, Patt, J Little, & A Glickman. Over the Influence: The Harm Reduction Guide to Controlling Your Drugs and Alcohol Use.  2^nd edition. The Guilford Press. 2017.
• DiClemente, Carlo. Addiction and Change: How Addictions Develop and Addicted People Recover.  2^nd edition. Guilford Press. 2018.
• Johnson, Vernon. I’ll Quit Tomorrow: A Practical Guide to Alcoholism Treatment. Revised edition. HarperOne. 1990.
• Knapp, Caroline. Drinking: A Love Story. Dial Press/Bantam Dell. 1997.
• Milam, James Robert, & K  Ketcham. Under the Influence: A Guide to the Myths and Realities of Alcoholism. Reissue edition. Bantam Publishers. 1988.
• Pinkham, Mary Ellen. How to Stop the One You Love from Drinking. GP Putnam & Sons. 1986.
• Prochaska, James, J Norcross, & C DiClementi. Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward. William Morrow, 2007.
• Schaefer, Dick. Choices and Consequences: What to Do When a Teenager Uses Alcohol/Drugs. Hazelden Publishing. 1998.
• Schierse, Leonard, & L Schierse. Witness to the Fire: Creativity and the Veil of Addiction. Shambhala Publications. Reprint edition. 2001.

Adult Children of Alcoholics and Codependence

• Beattie, Melody. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. San Francisco: Hazelden. Reprint 2011.
• Black, Claudia. It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up With Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults. Hazelden. Reprint. 2002.
• Cermak, Timmen, & J Rutzky. A Time to Heal Workbook: Stepping-Stones to Recovery for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Putnam/ TarcherPerigee. 1994.
• Knapp, Caroline. Drinking: A Love Story. Dial Press/Bantam Dell. 1997.
• Mellody, Pia. Facing Codependence. Harper & Row. 2003.
• Sommers, Suzanne. Keeping Secrets. Warner Brothers. 1988. A first-person account about being an adult child of an alcoholic.
• Woititz, Janet Geringer. Adult Children of Alcoholics: Expanded Edition. Health Communications, Inc. 2^nd edition. 1990.
• Woititz, Janet Geringer. Struggle for Intimacy. Health Communications. Revised edition. 1993.

Sexual Addiction

• Carnes, Patrick. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Carnes 2001. 
• Carnes, Patrick. Don't Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction. Bantam. 1991.

• Bolton, Robert. People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts. Simon & Schuster. 1986.
• Fensterheim, Herbert, and J Baer. Don’t Say Yes When You Want to Say No. Dell. 1975.
• Gartrell, Nanette. My Answer is No-If That’s Okay with You: How Women Can Say No with Confidence. Atria Books. Reprint edition. 2009.

• Bell, Arthur H. You Can’t Talk to Me That Way! Stopping Toxic Language in the Workplace. Career Press. 2005.
• Crowley, Katherine, & K Elster. Working with You is Killing Me: Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work. Hachette Book Group. 2006.
• Field, Tim. Bully in Sight: How to Predict, Resist, Challenge and Combat Workplace Bullying. Success Unlimited. 1996.
• Futterman, Susan. When You Work for a Bully: Assessing Your Options and Taking Action. Croce Publishing. 2004.
• Haden Elgin, Suzette. The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense at Work. Prentice Hall Press. 2000.
• Lynn, Adele B. In Search of Honor: Lessons from Workers on How to Build Trust. Bajon House Publishing. 1998.
• Namie, Gary & Ruth Namie. The Bully at Work: What You Can do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job. Sourcebooks. 2^nd edition. 2009.
• Sutton, Robert. The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workforce and Surviving One That Isn’t. Hachette Book Group. Reprint. 2010.

• Carroll, Laura. Families of Two. Xlibris, 2000.
• Carter, Jean and Michael. Sweet Grapes: How to Stop Being Infertile and Start Living Again. Perspectives Press. Expanded edition.1998. Good information on how to cope when you want a child and are unable to have one.
• Casey, Terri. Pride and Joy: The Lives and Passions of Women Without Children. Atria/ Beyond Words. 2007.
• Engel, Beverly. The Parenthood Decision: Discovering Whether You Are Ready and Willing to Become a Parent. Main Street Books. 1998.
• Ireland, Mardy S. Reconceiving Women: Separating Motherhood from Female Identity. Guilford Press. 1993.
• Senior, Jennifer. All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of modern parenthood. Ecco, 2015.

• Burns, David. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. Harper. Reprint ed. 2008. 
• Burns, David. The Feeling Good Handbook. Plume. Revised. 1999. A workbook based on Burns’s Feeling Good book 
• Seligman, Martin. Learned Optimism. Vintage. Reprint ed. 2006. 
• Seligman, Martin. The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and Build Lifelong Resilience. Mariner. Reprint ed. 2007. 
• Spradlin, Scott E. Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life: How Dialectical Behavior Therapy Can Put You in Control. New Harbinger. 2003.

• Kubler Ross, Elizabeth. On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and their Own Families. Scribner. Reprint ed. 2014. 
• Kubler Ross, Elizabeth. Questions and Answers on Death and Dying. Quality. 2002. 
• Ostaseski, Frank. The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Full. Flatiron Books. 2017.
• Remen, Rachel Naomi. Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories that Heal. New York: Riverhead Books. 10^th Anniversary ed. 2006. 
• Rinpoche, Sogyal. The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. Harper. 20^th Anniversary ed. 2012.
• Shneidman, Edwin. A Commonsense Book of Death: Reflections at Ninety of a Lifelong Thanatologist. Rowman & Littlefield, 2008.

• Cacciatore, Joanne. Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief. Somerville, MA: Wisdom Publications, 2017.
• Fine, Carla. No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One. Main Street Books/ Harmony. 1999. 
• Goulding, Mary. A Time to Say Good-Bye: Moving Beyond Loss. Papier-Mache Press. 1996. For widows and widowers.
• Grollman, Earl. Talking About Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child. Beacon Press. 4^th edition. 2011. For parents, to help their children deal with death.
• Greenspan, Miriam. Healing through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair. Shambhala. 2003. 
• Larson, Dale G. The Helper’s Journey: Working with People Facing Grief, Loss, and Life-Threatening Illness. Research Press. 1993. 
• McWilliams, Peter, Harold Bloomfield & Melba Colgove. How to Survive the Loss of a Love. Prelude Press. Reprint ed. 2006. 
• Panagotacos, Vicki. Gaining Traction: Starting over after the death of your life partner. Amazon, 2014.
• Rando, Therese. How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies. Bantam. 1988. 
• Staudacher, Carol. Men and Grief. New Harbinger. 1991. 
• Stern, Ellen Sue. Living with Loss: Meditations for Grieving Widows. Itasca, 2006.
• Tatelbaum, Judy. The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief. Harper & Row. 1984. 
• Viorst, Judith. Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies, and Impossible Expectations that All of Us have to Give Up in Order to Grow. Simon and Schuster, 1998.
• Walter, Carolyn. The Loss of a Life Partner: Narratives of the Bereaved. Columbia University Press. 2003.
• Zenoff, Nisha. The Unspeakable Loss: How Do You Live After a Child Dies? Da Capo Lifelong Books. 2017.

Infertility / Loss of Child (See also Childfree Living; Relationships)

• Ilse, Sherokee. Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death. Wintergreen Press. 20^th Anniversary Revised & Enlarged ed. 2015.

AIDS

• Grodeck, Brett. The First Year—HIV: An Essential Guide for the Newly Diagnosed. Da Capo, Revised ed. 2007.
• Ward, Darrell E. The AmFAR AIDS Handbook: The Complete Guide to Understanding HIV and AIDS. New York: WW Norton & Co. 1999.

Chronic Pain

• Catalano, Ellen M. The Chronic Pain Control Workbook: A Step-By-Step Guide for Coping with Overcoming Pain. New Harbinger. 1996
• Cohen, Carlene. Turning Suffering Inside Out: A Zen Approach to Living with Physical and Emotional Pain. Shambhala. 2002. With stories, exercises, and an awareness born of long Zen practice, Cohen shows how we can lead a satisfying, even joyful life in the midst of pain
• Bolen, Jean Shinoda. Close to the Bone: Life-Threatening Illness as a Soul Journey. Conari Press. 10^th Anniversary ed. 2007. This book looks at life-threatening illness and chronic pain from a soul perspective: how this journey can lead to a fuller, healthier, more meaningful life
• Dahl, Joanne, & Tobias Lundgren. Living Beyond Your Pain: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Ease Chronic Pain. New Harbinger. 2006. The emphasis is on accepting and learning to live with pain, and limiting the control it exerts over your life
• Dillard, James N & Leigh Ann Hirschman. The Chronic Pain Solution: Your Personal Path to Pain Relief. Bantam Dell. Reprint ed. 2003. An educational book which combines the best of Western medicine and gentler alternative therapies
• Morris, David B. The Culture of Pain. UC California Press. Reprint ed. 1993. In this richly intriguing study Morris gives eloquent voice to the experience of pain as shaped by individual minds and specific cultures, from tortured victims of the Inquisition to the Nazi death camps, the phantom limb pain of amputees and the suffering of victims of arthritis, disability, cancer, and AIDS
• Price, Reynolds. A Whole New Life: An Illness and a Healing. Scribner. Reprint ed. 2003. Inspirational book written by a man who survives cancer, is paralyzed, and finds meaning in “a whole new life
• Rosenfeld, Arthur. The Truth About Chronic Pain: Patients and Professionals on How to Face It, Understand It, Overcome It. Basic Books. 2003.
• Schneider, Jennifer P. Living With Chronic Pain: The Complete Health Guide to the Causes and Treatment of Chronic Pain. Healthy Hatherleigh Press. 2^nd ed. 2009.
• Thorn, Beverly E. Cognitive Therapy for Chronic Pain: A Step-by-Step Guide. Guilford Press. 2^nd ed. 2017.
• Turk, Dennis C, & Frits Winter. The Pain Survival Guide: How to Reclaim Your Life. APA Life Tools Press. 2005. This is a proven 10-step program that shows how gradual behavior changes can lead to great improvements.

Illness and Chronic Illness

• Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. Bantam. Revised ed. 2013. 
• Klein, Robert, & Marcia Landau. Healing the Body Betrayed: A Self-Paced, Self Help Guide to Regaining Psychological Control of Your Chronic Illness. Chronimed. 1992. 
• Selak, Joy & Steven Overman. You Don’t Look Sick: Living Well With Invisible Chronic Illness. Demos Health, 2^nd ed. 2012. 
• Topf, Linda, & H Z Bennett. You are not Your Illness: Seven Principles for Meeting the Challenge of Illness. Touchstone1995. 
• Wells, Susan Milstrey. A Delicate Balance: Living Successfully with Chronic Illness. Perseus. 2000.

Menopause

• Barbach, Lonnie. The Pause: Positive Approaches to Perimenopause and Menopause. Plume. Revised ed. 2000. 
• Boston Women's Health Book Collective. The New Our Bodies Ourselves. Touchstone. 4^th ed. 2005. 
• Doress-Worsters, Paula, & Diana Siegal. The New Ourselves, Growing Older. Touchstone. 2^nd Revised ed. 1994 
• Greenwood, Sadja. Menopause Naturally: Preparing for the Second Half of Life. Volcano Press. 2^nd ed Updated.1996. 
• Greer, Germaine. The Change: Women, Aging and the Menopause. Knopf. 1992. 
• Love, Susan. Dr. Susan Love's Menopause and Hormone Book: Making Informed Choices. Harmony. Revised ed. 2003. 
• Northrup, Christiane. The Wisdom of Menopause: Creating Physical and Emotional Health During the Change. Bantam. Revised ed. 2012. 
• O'Hanlan, Katherine. Natural Menopause. Da Capo. Revised ed. 1996. 
• Sheehy, Gail. Silent Passage: Menopause. Gallery Books. 6^th ed. 2010. 
• Wolfe, Honora Lee. Second Spring: A Guide to Healthy Menopause Through Traditional Chinese Medicine. Blue Poppy Press. 1990.

Sleep Health

• Dement, William. The Promise of Sleep: A Pioneer in Sleep Medicine Explores the Vital Connection Between Health, Happiness, and a Good Night’s Sleep. Dell. 2000.
• Huffington, Ariana. The Sleep Revolution: Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time. Harmony. 2017.
• Stevenson, Shawn. Sleep Smarter: 21 Essential Strategies to Sleep Your Way to a Better Body, Better Health, Bigger Success. Rodale. 2016.
• U.S. National Library of Medicine. National Health, Lung, and Blood Institute. Healthy Sleep. 2009. Brief guides to healthy sleep and sleep disorders are available at this site
• Walker, Matthew. Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams. Simon Schuster. 2017.

ADD, ADHD and Learning Disabilities

• Barkley, Russell. Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents. Guilford Press. 3^rd ed. 2013.
• Hallowell, Edward & John Ratey. Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder. Anchor. Reprint ed. 2011. For adults with ADD and ADHD
• Nadeau, Kathleen. Understanding Women with AD/HD. Advantage Books. 2002.
• Solden, Sari. Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embracing Your Differences and Transform Your life. Introspect Press. Revised ed. 2012.

Anxiety

• Bourne, Edmund J. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. New Harbinger. 6^th ed. 2015.
• Bourne, Edmund, & Loma Garano. Coping with Anxiety: 10 Simple Ways to Relieve Anxiety, Fear, and Worry. New Harbinger. 2^nd ed. 2016.
• Hanh, Thich Nhat. Creating True Peace: Ending Violence in Yourself, Your Family, Your Community, and the World. Atria Books. Reprint ed. 2004.
• Isaacs, Mark. Living with Fear: Understanding and Coping with Anxiety. McGraw Hill. Subsequent ed. 2002.
• Jeffers, Susan. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Ballantine. 20^th Anniversary Ed. 2006. Especially good for career issues.
• Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. Hachette. 10^th Ed. 2005.
• Wilson, Reid. Don't Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks. Harper Perennial. 3^rd Ed. 2009.

For children –

• Huebner, Don. What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s guide to overcoming anxiety. Magination Press, 2006.

Bipolar/Manic Depression

• Castle, Lana R. Bipolar Demystified: Mastering the Tightrope of Manic Depression. Da Capo Lifelong Books, 2003.
• Copeland, Mary Ellen. Living Without Depression and Manic Depression: A Workbook for Maintaining Mood Stability. New Harbinger. 1994.
• Jamison, Kay Redfield. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness. Knopf. 1995. Autobiography of a psychologist who is diagnosed with Bipolar disorder
• McDermott, Zack. Gorilla and the Bird: A Memoire of Madness and a Mother’s Love. Little, Brown, 2018.
• Vien, Enid. Mood Swings. Dynamism Publications. 2^nd Ed. 1999.

Borderline Personality Disorder

• Bill, Eddie and Randy Krieger. Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. New Harbinger Publications, 2011.
• Forward, Susan. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You. Harper. 1998.
• Kreisman, Jerold & Hal Straus. I Hate You—Don’t Leave Me: Understanding The Borderline Personality Disorder. TarcherPerigee. Revised Ed. 2010.
• Mason Paul. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About has Borderline Personality Disorder. New Harbinger. 2^nd Ed. 2010.
• Reiland, Rachel. Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Hazelden Press. 2004.

Depression

• Burns, David. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. Harper. Reprint Ed. 2008. A cognitive-behavioral approach to resolving depression.
• Burns, David. The Feeling Good Handbook. Plume. Revised Ed. 1999. A workbook based on Burns's Feeling Good book. 
• Copeland, Mary Ellen. The Depression Workbook: A Guide for Living with Depression and Manic Depression. New Harbinger. 2^nd Ed. 2002. 
• Greenspan, Miriam. Healing through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair. Shambhala Publications, Inc. 2003. 
• Williams, Mark, et al. The Mindful Way Through Depression; Freeing Yourself From Chronic Unhappiness.  NY: Guilford Press. 2007. Some editions include audio CD narrated by Jon Kabat-Zinn.

Eating Disorders

• Bulik, Cynthia, & N Taylor. Runaway Eating: The 8 Point Plan to Conquer Adult Food and Weight Obsessions. Rodale Press. 2005. 
• Carlton, Pamela. Take Charge of Your Child’s Eating Disorder: A Physician’s Step-By-Step Guide to Defeating Anorexia and Bulimia. Marlowe & Co. 2007. 
• Knapp, Caroline. Appetites. New York: Counterpoint. Revised ed. 2011. 
• Lock, James, & Daniel Le Grange. Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder. Guilford Press. 2^nd Ed. 2015. 
• Mellin, Laurel. The Solution: 6 Winning Ways to Permanent Weight Loss. HarperCollins. 1997. For people who have trouble controlling their food cravings 
• Roth, Geneen. When Food is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy. Plume. 1991. 
• Roth, Geneen. Feeding the Hungry Heart: The Experience of Compulsive Eating. Plume. Reissue Ed. 1993 
• Zerbe, Kathryn. The Body Betrayed: A Deeper Understanding of Women, Eating Disorders, and Treatment. Gurze Books. 1995.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (see also Phobias)

• Baer, Lee. Getting Control: Overcoming Your Obsessions and Compulsions. Plume. Updated edition. 2012. 
• Rapaport, Judith. The Boy Who Couldn't Stop Washing: The Experience and Treatment of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. EP Dutton. 1989. 
• Schwartz, Jeffrey M. Brain Lock: Free Yourself From Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior. Harper Perennial. 20^th Anniversary Edition. 2016. Highly recommended.
• Steketee, Fail, & K White. When Once is Not Enough: Help for Obsessive-Compulsives. New Harbinger. 1991.

Phobias

• Brown, Duane. Flying without Fear: Effective Strategies to Get You Where You Need to Go. New Harbinger. 2^nd Edition. 2009. 
• Dumont, Raeann. The Sky is Falling: Understanding and Coping with Phobias, Panic, and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders. WW Norton. 1996. 

Schizophrenia

• Mueser, Kim. Coping with Schizophrenia: A Guide for Families. New Harbinger. 1994. 
• Torrey, E Fuller. Surviving Schizophrenia: A Family Manual. Harper & Row. 6^th Edition. 2013.

Self-Harm Behavior

• Khemlani-Patel, Sony, Merry McVey-Noble & Fugen Neziroglu. When Your Child is Cutting: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children Overcome Self-injury. New Harbinger. 2006. 
• Levenkron, Steven. Cutting: Understanding and Overcoming Self-Mutilation. WW Norton. 1998.

Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

• Burke Harris, Nadine. The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-term Effects of Childhood Adversity. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. 2018.
• Jain, Shali. The Unspeakable Mind: Stories Trauma and Healing from the Front Lines of PTSD Science. New York, NY: Harper, 2019.
• Jensen, Frances E. with Amy Ellis Nutt. The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults. Harper. 2016.
• Riera, Michael. Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. Ten Speed Press. 2012.
• Siegel, Daniel J. Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain. Tarcher Perigee, 2014.
• Levine, Peter. Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. North Atlantic Books. 1997. 
• Matsakis, Aphrodite. I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors. New Harbinger. 2^nd Revised Edition. 1996. 
• Naparstek, Belleruth. Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal. Random House. 2004. 
• Rothschild, Babette. The Body Remembers. WW Norton. 2000.
• Van der Volk, Bessel. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing Trauma. Penguin. 2015.

Young Children

• Burke Harris, Nadine. The Deepest Well: Healing the long-term effects of childhood adversity. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2018.
• Cohen, Lawrence J. Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children that Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence. Ballantine Books. 2001. 
• Dinkmeyer, Don Sr., Gary McKay & Don Dinkmeyer, Jr. The Parent’s Handbook: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting. STEP Publishers. 2008. 
• Faber, Adele, & E Mazlish. How to Talk So Kids will Listen and Listen So Kids will Talk. Scribner, Updated Edition. 2012. 
• Faber, Adele, & E Mazlish. Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too. WW Norton. 2012. 
• Gottman, John & Joan Declaire. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting. Simon & Schuster. 1997. Highly recommended 
• Levine, Mel. The Myth of Laziness. Simon & Schuster. 2003. 
• Phelan, Thomas. 1-2-3- Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting. Sourcebooks. 6^th Edition. 2016. 
• Seligman, Martin. The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and Build Lifelong Resilience. HarperCollins. Reprint Ed. 2007. 
• Shure, Myrna. Raising a Thinking Child: Help Your Young Child to Resolve Everyday Conflicts and Get Along with Others. Pocket Books. 1994. 
• Siegel, Daniel J, & M Hartzell. Parenting From the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. TarcherPerigee. 10^th Anniversary Edition. 2013.
• Turecki, Stanley, & Leslie Tonner. The Difficult Child: Expanded and Revised Edition. Bantam Books. 2000. 
• Wolf, Anthony. It's Not Fair: Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night! A Guide to the Tougher Parts of Parenting. Farrar, Straus & Giroux. 1996.

Helping Your Child with Friendships

• Cooper, Scott. Sticks and Stones: 7 Ways Your Child Can Deal with Teasing, Conflict, and Other Hard Times. Times Books/Random House. 2000. 
• Posey, Kate Cohen. How to Handle Bullies, Teasers, and Other Meanies: A Book that Takes the Nuisance out of Name Calling and other Nonsense. Rainbow Books. 1995. Older children can read this on their own; younger children will need an adult to go through it with them.
• Thompson, Michael, Cathe Grace & Lawrence Cohen. Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children. Ballantine Books. 2001. 
• Thompson, Michael, Lawrence J. Cohen & Catherine O’Neill Grace. Mom, They’re Teasing Me: Helping Your Child Solve Social Problems. Ballantine Books. 2002.

Adolescents and Young Adults (see Adolescence)

• Adams, Jane. When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us: Letting go of Their Problems, Loving Them Anyway, and Getting on with Our Lives. New York: Free Press. 2003.
• Ashworth, Trisha, & A Nobile. I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids: Reinventing Modern Motherhood. Chronicle Books. 2007.
• Coburn, Karen Levin, & M L Treeger. Letting Go: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years. Harper Perennial. 6^th Edition. 2016. 
• Dinkmeyer, Don Sr., Gary McKay & Don Dinkmeyer, Jr. The Parent’s Handbook: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting. STEP Publishers. 2008. 
• Fleming, Don. How to Stop the Battle with Your Teenager. Touchstone. Reprint Edition. 1993. 
• Jensen, Frances E. with Amy Ellis Nutt. The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults. Harper, 2016.
• Levine, Madeline. The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids. Harper Collins. 2006. 
• Murphy, Timothy, & Loriann Oberlin. The Angry Child: Regaining Control When Your Child is Out of Control. Three Rivers Press. 2001. 
• Panzarine, Susan. A Parent’s Guide to the Teen Years: Raising Your 11-to-14-Year-Old in the Age of Chat Rooms and Navel Rings. Checkmark Books. 2000.
• Riera, Michael. Uncommon Sense for Parents of Teens. Ten Speed Press. 3^rd Ed, 2012. 
• Riera, Michael. Staying Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They’re Really Saying. Da Capo. Revised Ed. 2017. 
• Sagarese, Margaret, & Charlene Giannetti. The Roller Coaster Years: Raising Your Child Through the Maddening Yet Magical Middle School Years. Broadway Books. 1997. 
• Siegel, Daniel J. Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain. Tarcher Perigee, 2014.
• Wittens, Jim. No More Nagging, Nit-Picking, and Nudging: A Guide to Motivating, Inspiring, and Influencing Kids Aged 10 to 18. Deer Crossing Press. 1991
• Wolf, Anthony. Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent’s Guide to the New Teenager. New York: Farrar, Straus & Giroux. Revised Edition. 2002.

Adult Children Dealing with Difficult Parents

• Lawson, Christine Ann Lawson. Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationships paperback. Rowan & Littlefield. 2004. 
• Roth, Kimberlee, Friedman, F, & Kreger, R. Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds and Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem paperback. New Harbinger. 2003.

• Brenner, Helene. I Know I’m in There Somewhere: A Woman’s Guide to Finding Her Inner Voice and Living a Life of Authenticity. Gotham Books. 2003. Highly recommended.
• Greenspan, Miriam. Healing Through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair. Shambhala. 2003. Highly recommended.
• Segal, Jeanne. Raising Your Emotional Intelligence: A Hands-On Program for Harnessing the Power of Your Instincts and Emotions. Henry Holt. 1997. 
• Weiser Cornell, Ann. The Power of Focusing: A Practical Guide to Emotional Self-Healing. New Harbinger. 1996.

• Fay, Jennifer & Caren Adams. Free of the Shadows: Recovering from Sexual Violence. New Harbinger. 1989. 
• Ledray, Linda. Recovering from Rape: Practical Advice on Overcoming the Trauma and Coping with Police, Hospitals, and the Courts – for the Survivors of Sexual Assault and their Families, Lovers and Friends. Henry Holt. 1994. 
• Raine, Nancy Venable. After Silence: Rape & My Journey Back. Crown. 1998. A first-person account of surviving and recovering from rape; excellent.

Mindfulness / Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction

• Chodron, Pema. The Wisdom of No Escape, and the Path of Loving Kindness. Shambhala, 2001.
• Hanson, Rick. Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. Harmony, 2018
• Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. Hachette. 10^th Ed. 2005.
• Nhat Hanh Thich. Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life. Bantam. 1991. A simple explanation of Zen Buddhist techniques of meditation and awareness.

Compassion / Self-Compassion

• Brown, Brené. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to be and Embrace Who You Are. Hazelden Publishing. 2010.
• Brown, Brené. Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Random House. Reprint Edition. 2017.
• Chodron, Pema. Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living. Shambala, 2001.
• Neff, Kristin. Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. William Morrow. Reprint Edition. 2015.

• Bass, Ellen, & Laura Davis. The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. William Morrow. 20^th Anniversary Edition. 2008. 
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